Velma and the Victory Garden

Three years ago today Fredrik and I were surrounded by friends and family from all over the world who came to celebrate our nuptials. It was the most FUN day of my life. Yay us! I can't believe 3 years have gone by in a flash. I can't believe all that's changed in 3 years. It's hard to believe we now have a baby, a dog, a car, a house, and live in a neighborhood where our neighbors hang out because we're friends, we borrow each others ladders and plungers, drop off sweet potatoes recovered from our garden plots, take walks with our babies in strollers, and get together to carve pumpkins (yep, that happens tonight!) It's hard to believe in this coming year we'll be bringing home our son. I'm feeling really grown up all of a sudden. I feel like a real MAMA...not just to my own kid, but suddenly I feel responsible to more than just me.

So, back to the anniversary. What to get my handsome groom to commemorate year 3? The customary gift for year 3 is leather. Bad news and kind of inappropriate for a couple stepping into veganism. My plan was to bake him some vegan pumpkin muffins, lame, I know. And then I went to yoga. *Note to self: good things happen when you just go to class.

I walked into the studio, still not content on the muffins and wondering what I could get my husband at Whole Foods. I had a 15 minute window after class before I needed to be home to feed Kysa, but like he really wants a candle or bath salts?! ugh, what to do? So after I signed in, Andrea, one of the amazing directors of the studio asked me four magic words: You want a turkey?

YES!!! please.

So I went over to a stack of pictures she had of turkeys who needed to be adopted at Farm Sanctuary. I looked at pictures of turkeys named Jordan, Reese, and Harley all very regal and white and quite beautiful....and then I saw Velma. She was kind of scraggly, and brown. Not the most regal turkey in the bunch, but she was certainly cute in a tough girl kind of way. Her description said she had been neglected and abandoned on the side of the road. That was it. Velma became Fredrik's newly adopted TURKEY! So much better than a new wallet, or belt, or leathery token of my affection.

I don't think I've ever had so much joy buying a gift. Really. Velma will live out her sweet turkey days at Farm Sanctuary in peace without torture, neglect, horrific living conditions and certainly no slaughter. She will have a place of honor at our Thanksgiving dinner this year...just think a LIVE turkey this year. Thanksliving.

And just when I thought I had outdone myself with my gift to my groom, he surprised me with purchasing the vegetable seed needs for 50 Victory Garden participants in Ethiopia, which is a program for 200 students from the village of Atebes in Ethiopia. Students will be trained annually in growing victory gardens to harvest fruits and vegetables for food and income. The students are taught surface water harvesting which will help reduce the impact of drought, and the victory gardens will provide food to students and families. Oh YAY!!!

Last year I probably would have jumped on the leather train and hinted about a new bag or jacket. Something in me shifted after Kysa was born, and continued to shift now that we're embarking on this adoption journey. My vision has changed, it's not just about me anymore. I'm beginning to see more clearly that we're all in this together...Turkeys, Ethiopian students growing victory gardens, husbands, wives, parents and children, you and me. We're all the same. Really.

LOKAH SAMASTA SUKHINO BHAVANTU
May all beings everywhere be happy and free and may the thoughts, words and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.

Happy Anniversary, Fredrik!!! I love you.

This is an actual picture of Velma in all her Turkey glory. May she live a long and happy life. You can read more about her and her inspiring rescue story with the link below. You can even adopt a Turkey too! Believe me, saving a turkey feels much better than eating one!!

http://www.farmsanctuary.org/rescue/rescues/2010/daphne_velma.html

Our latest homework

A little insight into our process...below is a question (and our response) we were asked on one of our MANY applications. I thought this might answer questions some of you might have as to WHY we're embarking on this adventure and give you a small peek into the process. It's also a bit funny to see how two verbose people crammed 5 loaded questions into 2 paragraphs.

Why do you wish to adopt a child from Ethiopia?

(1-2 paragraphs)

· You can mention the steps that brought you to adoption

· You can mention what made you decide to adopt a child from Ethiopia

· What are your strengths as a couple/parents

· How you will keep the Ethiopian culture with you child

· Something about providing education for the child

Our path to adoption ironically began with some sad news. Before our daughter Kysa was born, we had a miscarriage and were naturally devastated. We know this is completely normal, but it also opened our eyes to the fact that we didn’t care if we had biological or adopted children, we just wanted to be parents. We went to an international adoption workshop to learn more. Since we are already an international family, we felt that an international adoption just makes sense for our family. Fredrik was born in Sweden and Allison in the United States. Together we have a strong global outlook having both traveled all over the world, and with friends and family who live all over the world. We were very moved by the large number of orphans in Ethiopia, but we were also inspired by the great care and love these orphans receive in the orphanages. Even though we have been very blessed with a biological daughter, we are still recognizing our calling to adopt from Ethiopia.

Our strengths as parents to an adopted child come from our love of children, our interest in blending the beauty of our own cultures (Swedish, American, and now Ethiopian), and our desire to teach openness, exploration and tolerance in all things. We look forward to incorporating Ethiopian cuisine, holidays, music, and customs into our family traditions. As a family, we value higher education, as well as the non-academic educational experiences we have both benefited from during our lives including sports, the arts, and travel. Before becoming a mother, Allison taught literacy and dance to children in the New York City schools and has also worked with students throughout the USA, Mexico and Turkey. Before becoming a father, Fredrik received his MBA in International Business and has worked and studied in countries all around the world. He now works for a global technology company, IBM. As parents, we will make sure our children receive the best academic education possible, but we will also give them many opportunities to observe and explore the experiences around us every day whether that be cooking, reading or gardening at home, socializing in our diverse neighborhood, or traveling to far beyond. We look forward to being very involved in our children's education by volunteering in their schools. Currently we plan for our children to attend Mitchell Montessori starting at age 3. The school is walking distance from our home. We live in a very racially diverse neighborhood, and we acknowledge the importance of providing our son a very diverse environment where he can grow and thrive, honor his heritage, and feel acceptance from those around him. We are so blessed and excited to one day soon bring our son home.

Full Time Job

Fredrik comes home tomorrow. I am SO glad. I've arrived at a new level of exhaustion, even though Kysa and Lexi have been really easy this week. Regardless, this mommy needs a break. 8 days of single parenting...eye opening. My respect and heart goes out to all you single moms out there. I am glad to know that I CAN do it alone (at least for a week), I'm just thankful that I don't have to.

I'm also realizing that the paperwork part of the adoption is going to be a full time job. For me. Did I mention that having a baby sucked out the detail oriented part of my brain and replaced it with spontaneous singing, cooing and gooing? This could be interesting.

This week that Fredrik has been gone was spent researching homestudy agencies (we finally have one now), having a phone meeting again with Gladney to give me an overview of the entire process detail by detail which thoroughly overwhelmed me. By the end of the conversation it sounded to me like she was saying...'Then you need to send the form to President Obama, but only after the Pope has sprinkled it with holy water, but don't send it to the Pope until we give you notice that Santa Claus has not added you to his naughty list, and before you do any of this make sure you send us a check." Yes, thankfully it's all written down somewhere in our manual.

I look forward to having a few uninterrupted hours to work on this when Fredrik gets home....but being distracted by serious cuteness isn't so bad either.